"The Patient Who Wouldn't Leave (And Why I Opened The Door)"

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Last updated: April 2026

You gave all the signals.
You stood up. You closed your notes. You said: "Okay, so we'll see each other next week." You walked toward the door.
And yet. She keeps talking.

About her work. Her ex. Her cat. And you're standing there, with your stomach growling, your brain on standby after a day of 12 patients, and a voice in your head screaming: "I WANT TO GO HOME."
But you do nothing. Because you're an acupuncturist. And acupuncturists are nice.

Here's the truth: you're not a therapist, you're a professional with boundaries.

And professionals have working hours. Professionals have energy that runs out. Professionals say: "I understand you want to talk about this now, but my day is over. We'll pick this up next time."

But we don't always do that. Because somewhere, deep down, we fear they won't like us anymore. Or that they won't come back. Or that we're bad if we open the door and say: "It's time."

Nonsense.

The truth? That patient only respects you when you respect yourself.

I experienced it myself. End of the day. Intake. Great conversation. But she stays. And stays. And I drop hints. I look at my watch. I say: "Great, so we'll see each other next week."

Nothing. She keeps talking.

So eventually I stand up, walk to the door, and open it. I say: "Thank you for today. I'll see you next week."

And you know what? She laughed. She said: "Oh yes, of course!" And she left.

No drama. No conflict. Just a boundary. And she respected it.

What you can learn from this:

People don't want a therapist who's always available. They want a professional who knows what they're doing. And that means: boundaries that protect, not reject.

Your time is precious. Your energy is finite. And if you give it away to people who don't know when to stop, you're stealing it from yourself. And from the patient who comes in at 9am tomorrow and deserves your full attention.

You're allowed to open the door. You're allowed to say: "It's time."

That doesn't make you less nice. That makes you clear. And clarity creates trust.

Just as the Balance Method gives you a clear, logical structure for your clinical treatments, setting boundaries provides that exact same reliable framework for your time and energy. Both are essential so you don't burn out.

About the Authors: Laurence & Olivier

Laurence and Olivier are specialized Balance Method practitioners based in Terneuzen, Netherlands. Both were trained directly by Dr. Delphine Armand — one of Dr. Tan's appointed disciples and co-founder of Si Yuan. For 8 years, they were part of Si Yuan's core team as instructor and video director — teaching, filming, and documenting every aspect of the Balance Method's global training program. Today they treat up to 75 patients weekly using exclusively the Balance Method at Acusana Acupunctuur.

• →Laurence was an instructor at Si Yuan, teaching the Balance Method alongside Dr. Delphine Armand across international trainings. She developed the illustrated clinical notes used during these trainings — notes that became the Balance Method Notebook, now the go-to clinical reference for practitioners worldwide.
• →Olivier filmed and edited every Si Yuan training for 8 years — from live clinical demonstrations to the complete Video on Demand library. He founded this independent knowledge hub to make Balance Method education freely accessible to practitioners everywhere.

Through this platform, they continue to build on Dr. Tan's core philosophy: "Share everything, keep nothing, help everyone."